Talking About Teen Dating Violence

According to a recent study, 81% of parents stated they believe dating violence isn't an issue or that they were unaware that it is an issue. With 1.5 million high school students experiencing dating violence each year, it's important parents know the signs. 

• Your teen's dating partner checks in on them too often and doesn't respect your teen's privacy. The dating partner checks your teen's phone or insists on having their social media passwords.  
• You hear name-calling or other demeaning comments made by your teen's dating partner. 
• Your teen stops activities they enjoy, such as spending time with other friends or suddenly gives up a hobby. 
• You notice injuries that your teen doesn't want to talk about. 

How to Talk to your Teen
There are several ways to help a teen who is experiencing dating violence. 

• Listen and support. Be calm and reassure them that it is not their fault. 
• Show concern. A good phrase to communicate is, "You don't deserve to be treated like this." 
• Keep the focus on the behavior and not the person. "I don't like the way he talks to you." Instead of, "He tries to control you." 
• Educate yourself on teen dating violence. Love is Respect  is a great resource. 

SafeHouse has brochures on the topics of teen dating violence, healthy break-ups, and sexting as well as other informational materials about teen dating violence. Email Sarah for more information- sarahr@safehouse.org.